The Mind rules the Heart
This topic came to my mind or heart should i say about a week back. I was attending a meeting - Meet the Author with my mom. It was a meeting where Writer Sivashankari was talking. Aunty and mom are close friends for more than 40 yrs. I had gone with my parents to attend the function.
I was as usual drifting and thinking when people were talking. Suddenly Aunty brought out a point, we are behaving more like a professional than being a human.
That sparked me to write this. Actually I should thank Aunty for giving me the idea, the urge to think on this.
What are we doing of late? The work we do has taken over us so much that we always think, act, behave as we behave in office. The professional in us dominates. Professional here being the mind rules over the heart. I see people around me behaving the same way i behave. Let me talk about myself, since i have the right to talk anything...see here again, i am thinking if i write about my own friends, will they mistake me....
Adai, c'mon grow up...this is the comment i would get from all my friends....we are all mature we think differently.
Mature mature nu sollitu....we have started to go into our own cocoons, we have withdrawn ourselves and have started to behave very indifferently.
I did not realise this until very recently. In Tamil we have a word " Ethirparpu" The English translation being "Expectation" .i prefer to keep it in Tamil. I used to talk, move, behave with all my friends without the ethirparpu..that i thought was pure friendship, my heart came first, my mind was not there at all. I did not think before i acted or behaved. But now of late, i don't do that. I have started to see a reason, or rather should i say i have started to think, these guys have not called me, why should i call them??
If we need something then, we call more than once and talk to all the people at home, from the friend, to his wife, to his parents, to his dog to his watchman. Why because i need to get this thing done. I would go all the way even to his house if i need to get my work done, but otherwise i would not even call them. Why have we become so materialistic?? What is happening to people?? Why this selfishness??
I wonder, is education making us bad or is that too much of professionalism making us heartless??
There was a time, when we did not have mobile phones with us, not use Internet so much, but just pick up Ur bike go to Ur friend's place and pick him up to go where? no where, just for the heck of it and my friends use to come without any hesitation. Now, i myself think, should i go? will he come?? What will he think?
C'mon man, he is the same friend who was with me from my college...why this hesitation?? Leave alone going out, you don't even call him/her...u think, why should i call him ? there is nothing to talk, what will i talk? My god....the mind is taking over...what is happening to us?? we don't go by our heart.....
We always say, we have a family...the responsibilities change. I still see few of them, who still are the same....my Mom is the best example...her friendship with Sivashankari aunty is unconditional. They care a damn...they don't think what each one is doing, even if they are busy, they take up their work and call them back and chat. They talk to each other almost daily. She does not even think once, if aunty called up or do i have a reason to call her. That is friendship.
I have to learn from them. There is no expectation from either of them. The Heart is the king....Mind goes by what the heart says.
C'mon guys let us be Mature, this is maturity..let us throw the selfishness that is crawling into our body like a Virus. I don't know if all of you have seen Spider man II, where spider man is taken over my his mind and is corrupted, his spider dress is also black showing how much it has corrupted, and how when that is out of his mind, he becomes the original Spidey we all loved....that is what we all should do, remove all the corrupt, materialistic, selfish thoughts and become the same guys when we were in college or school without expectations. This is very important and now. With technology taking over us more and more, we will not be able to inculcate this to the next generation, This is very important to all of us and the next generation.
I am changing myself, i will not expect anything from anybody, my friendship will be unconditional. I will start today, right away. I will be changed person. Change starts from you and i am starting today, i hope people reading this will do the same....
Guys, i am Privileged to have you as friends, Thanks to all, who have stood by me all these years and will continue to do so, irrespective of how i am. Thanks.
Sunday, January 17, 2010 | | 5 Comments
Religion - Faith and Follies
was chatting with my junior today on the net, and suddenly the topic of religion came up. We were talking about faith and the general practices that are followed and its significance.Most of us for a matter of fact, do not question the age old practices that is followed( Deiva kuttham aaidum). I have long and meaningful discussions with my dad on the religous practices that are followed and their significance.
I also have questioned on why it should be done in a certain way. This is the same topic that i had with my junior, actually thanks to her, that gave me the spark to write about this.
We generally follow any custom or practices, because it has been done so by our forefathers and hence follow. We dont know why it has to be done and also done in a certain way. We, the Generation X, dont follow our customs or rather dont bother to find out the significance of why we follow certain customs. The reasons being, one that we always blame time, no time, or we say it is a waste of time, or say i dont believe it. The underlying reason is i dont know why i am doing this so why should do this?
The age old customs and beliefs that are handed over generation after generation was always with a meaning. It was not just handed over without a meaning. All common customs and beliefs had a very profound meaning, which we dont know or dont bother to know.I sit my father, a religous man, when compared to me, and ask him questions, probing questions of why certain things have to be done and why?? Believe me, once you know the deep routed meaning of why we follow a custom, you will start following it, and follow it all your life sincerely.
Aacharam as it is called....loosely translated into rituals and routines. We are so used to this word, Aacharam - basically a way to lead life. These are followed blindly, but i would recommend, that we follow the rituals and customs based on thier merits available, and that too with self experience. It is our right and duty to understand scientifically, rationally and logically the meaning of each and every customs before we follow the same in our life.
Let us give you some of the common things that we follow, but without knowing the significance......
Lot of us do namaskaarams( prostrate) to elders and parents. Why do we do it?
We fall at the feet of parents, elders by touching their feet. The elders in turn bless us by placing their hand on or over our heads. We do namaskaarams when we meet elders and particularly on important occasions like the beginning of a new task, birthdays, festivals etc. In traditional brahmin circles, Namaskaaram is accompanied by abhivaadana, which serves to introduce one-self, announce one’s family and social stature.
when we do namaskaarm, it is a sign of respect for the age, maturity, nobility and divinity that our elders personify. It symbolizes our recognition of their selfless love for us and the sacrifices they have done for our welfare. It is a way of humbly acknowledging the greatness of another.
The good wishes and blessings of elders are highly valued in India. Good thoughts create positive vibrations. Good wishes springing from a heart full of love have a tremendous strength. It generates a lot of Positive vibration, which is transferred to us. The blessings of elders, which flow in the form of positive energy envelops us.
Let us look at another example,
Why do we ring the bell at temples or at home when we do pooja?
Is it to mark attendance to god that i prayed today?? no it is not,
if u hear carefully, the sounding of the bell, produces a sound, resembling OM, which is very auspicious. When we are in a temple, we are pure at heart, or try to be pure without any negative thoughts. Ringing this sound, reverberates inside every human, and reminds you think only of god and nothing else. This brings your mind to oneness with god.
Also we have heard in some places, when the AARATI is done, we hear the Conch and musical instruments being blown. This is to let people remind there is a supreme being above us.
It is also to drown any other sound that might disturb or distract the worship.
Another reason being, People who cannot not make it to a temple, are atleast reminded to stop whatever they were doing, at least for a few seconds, and mentally bow to the Lord.
This again gives us a lot of positive thoughts, and specially when we start the day, we visit the temples or or important occasions or important festivals, it helps to have a positive thoughts all day.
These two are just simple examples of some of the comon routines that we follow but dont know why we do this? Atleast in my case, it was not known and this helped to understand my religion better and the customs that made my life more meaningful.
Hope it helps others as well,
ओम शांति, शांति, शांति ओम।
Thursday, July 30, 2009 | | 2 Comments
USA - "land of abundant opportunities"
The so called land of promises- USA - "land of abundant opportunities"
I chanced to visit USA - Dallas to be precise about 1.5 months back. I was invited for a business meeting as part of my job responsibilities. Apparently i had a valid visa from 2006. I could travel only 2009. I am not a great admirer of USA. I always preferred Europe to US. My first abroad travel was to the Belgium and may be that is also a reason to it.
The first impression as soon as i landed at DFW(Dallas Forth Worth) airport was very disappointing. I had a very differnt picture of US in my mind( Partly influenced by the english movies i have watched - Padam parthu ketu pone pala pasangal le naanum oruthan). The Airport was very small, nothing great worth mentioning. Luckily i had travelled with 2 of my colleagues, so i had company, we took a cab to the hotel.
Once we stepped onto the Freeway(Highways for all the illiterates like me), i was wondering am i in the US?? no big buildings, no Malls etc. I should not have expected all these not in Dallas - a dry desert....The day i land at the airport, we are taken thru the immigration check, the officer at the counter looks at me up and down and asks me are u here on work? I have been tutored enough by my travel desk, boss, earlier visited friends and my colleagues, come what may never utter the word, Work, i as taught open my mouth and the only words that come out are " here for knowledge transfer". The man at the counter laughs scronfully ( உங்களக்கு வேற எதுமே சொல்லி அனுபமாடங்களா, எவளோ நாள் இதே சொல்லிடு இருபீங்க) and gives me a 90 day stay. 1st dissappointment - US Sucks
Day one at office.
The most important day, i am to visit my team for which i have been working for 3 years and my boss, a large hearted one, who had given a atlast a green signal for my travel is all set to receive me. I go into the office and i am disappointed by the ambience, it looks like a
run down mechanic garage...believe me i am not exaggerating. There are old desktops strewn all over the place, papers and files thrown carelessly in the cubicles, i am wondering am i at Dallas or the kothavalchavadi market( a vegetable market in chennai)?? My colleagues
welcome me with open arms and are very happy to see me. I keep talking to my friends and my boss arrives, a middle eastern man, well built, welcomes me and asks me tu be comfortable. Inge தான் ukaranama?? ஐயோ, இந்த galeez edathuliyaa, இது தான் the first thought that crosses my mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. I remember my plush cabin in Chennai, neatly arranged chairs, 24hrs AC, my room, water bottles, athu yenge ithu
yenge???? 2nd Dissappointment - US Sucks....
Life Goes on.............
My days in the US goes on as i count my days of my return. The only song that comes to my mind is "Sorgame endralum, athu nama ooru pole
varumaa". When i meet my fellow colleagues who have come there, they share the same thoughts. Their term of onshore is " KAALA PANI". These
were the same guys, who at some point of time had come to me and asked for their long impending onshore travel. Now the same guys ask me if they can leave early. Our typical day starts at about 6.30 AM with status update from my team. (Ithu bit mathiri, nama pasanga kite office pogarthuku munaadi yenna nadathathu nu ketukarthu, oru vilambaram than). We reach office and join the "STATUS CALL" ( onshore offshore sync up) where both the teams dont listen to each other, but u have to have this call daily athum twice. Yenna Kodumai sar ithu.. My job responsibilites were to attend the numerous conference calls with other teams and represent the team i work in a conference room called the "WAR ROOM". The definiton of a WAR ROOM in sofware field is a room where all teams meet up and solve the teething problems when different teams are invloved in a complex project, a very strategic one.. My co manager at oshore requests me to represent the team in the war room. Pogum pothe he tells me, Chandra your role is very important, we need somebody senior representing our team and you are the best man, the management's eye is on this project so play your role very politically.
Life in the US of the A.
In Dallas, i wonder if i am really in the US? Everywhere i see, i can see only Indians, be it the malls, Restaurants, roads, Indian markets, but the surprising part is nobody talks to each other. They just do their work and go on. Over the weekends we go out to explore Dallas, i
should admit, they have such wonderful cars and roads..fantastic, we had rented a car and we jus drove, drove and drove. Beautiful roads, excellent road discipline. Our own guys who used to cut signals here, adhere to all rules and drive. adadada ithu yeppo nama Indiaku varum,
this is the first thought that comes to your mind. We went to a mall on a sunday eve, it was about 6.00 pm, they Mall was closing, they close at 6.00 in the evening. Dai yenna da ithu, naanga ooru suthara nerathule, ippadi mooditu poreenga, Atagasathuku alave illiya. Generally all Malls in Dallas close by 6.00 on sundays. We come back dissappointed. I casually ask my fellow Indian friends what do they do over the weekends as i dont see much options for them.
They ask me have you ever visited "Gandhi Park" ?? I am astonished!!! aahaaa, Gandhi park nu oru peru, apadiye pullu arikuthu. US le Gandhi park, I have been here for 3 weeks and i never visited this place, must me something historic, wow, Gandhiji and Dallas what is the
connection? and it is on our way to the office nu additional information. Bloody hell, i cross the place atleast 4 times a day and how did i miss this? I tell my offshore Indian friends, "Machan, inge yetho Gandhi park nu irukaama, naama kattayam pogarom, matha sight seeing yellam aparam. This is historic nu oru feeling, get your cameras and we should not miss this place. Ivalo build up kuduthu, i ask my onshore friends to take me there. They say, definitely. We, well armed with our Digital cameras and camcorders take our car over the weekend and call up my friend for directions.
neengalum yengala maathiri thana nu oru feeling. My friends tell me this is Jefferson park a small park. I say, dai naama thapa vanthu irupom, let us find out, and we ask few people, they deny any knowledge of such place. I call up my friend and he says, yeah it is the same
Jefferson park that we call Gandhi park, and we spend our time here. Ada che, ulaga maga kodumai. Yenna kevalamana vaazhkai, ithu thana unga time pass. Yenna oru polithanamana vaazhkai..i wonder....how come people can stay in this place....4th Dissappointment - US Sucks.
Lifestyle
While i was in the US, a ex colleague of mine pings me after a really long time. He used to work with me before he took a H1B and relocated in the US for greener pastures. AVane maariye naraya peru, i tell them that i am in their land and all of them call me. This guy who pinged me,asks me if there is any openings in the company that i work for? I ask him what happend and he says, he is going back to India as he has lost his job, and is doing a distress sale of his belongings before going back. His wife is already gone back. He says most of this
colleagus have the same situation, the same place which had offered them abundant opportunities was turning thier back now. They are given a time before they can look for thier job or will be given the pink slip. I ask him to immediatley send his resume to me as we had some openings in my concern. I take to my Boss and the co manager, luckily for him the co manager also knows him as he had worked with him when he was in India, we use a bit of influence and get him on board as a contractor. This guy profusely thanks me and says he does not know what he would have done if he did not have this job.
I tell him i did not do anythng, jus that you are lucky. He says Chandra, you will not understand my situation. Nijamave i will not understand his situation and i will never want to be in that situation. Nimathiyana vaazhkai in India vitu pone palarukum ithu than nilamai. The so called land of Infinite possibilites, was no more there. people on a daily basis worry if they will be on the rolls the next day. All my friends call me and ask me if i can get them a job in India for even a less salary?
I feel sorry for them. Irukarthai vitutu parakarthuku aasai panteengale....ippo yenna acchu? At the same time, fellow indians who have planned never to return to India, thier thought process is completely screwed up. I hear two of my colleagues speaking to each other, " Bring up your son like an American Indian and not like a Indian American". I wonder what it is? evelo
naaliki intha aatam yellam...naanum paakren, aadi adangum vaazhkai ada, aaru adi nilame sontham ada, is the song that plays in my ipod..how symbolic. I am happy that i am not one of the lot that lives a life so pathetic.....Nth Dissappointment - US Sucks....
I can go on and on and on....
To sum up, i dont say that US is an absolutely lousy place, it definitely has its own + and _ . India is more or less equal now, you get all that u want. Give the country soemthing back that gave you such a solid foothold to grow and learn and it is only people like us who should
support our country to grow into a super power. As i always say patience is a virtue. LEt us all take India to the next level. JAI HIND......
P.S. This is my personal opinion......
Sunday, May 24, 2009 | | 6 Comments
Yajñopavītam - the "Sacred Thread"
Upanayana also called "sacred thread ceremony", is commonly known for being a Hindu ritual, where the concept of " Brahman" is introduced to a young boy.
In Hinduism, this ceremony is performed on only boys of at least 5 years of age from the Brahmin Caste. The youngster is taught during the ceremony the secret of life through a main concept called "Brahmopadesam" (This gives the individual the nature of Brahman - the Ultimate Reality). This is also alternatively called the "GAYATHRI MANTRA". Once this cermony is completed, the child becomes Brahmacharya as prescribed in Manusmriti (is the stage when the young child leads a student life (ideally in the Gurukul - in the household of the Guru). Brahmacharya is the first of the four phases of human life, namely, Brahmacharya, Grihastha, Vanaprastha, and finally Sanyasa.)
The hallmark of having gone through the Upanayana ceremony is the wearing of the Yajñopavītam (Sacred Thread) on the body. The thread is circular, being tied end-to-end (only one knot is permissible); it is normally supported on the left shoulder and wrapped around the body, falling underneath the right arm. The length of the thread is generally 96 times the breadth of four fingers of a man, which is believed to be equal to his height. Each of the four fingers represents one of the four states that the soul of a man experiences: waking, dreaming, dreamless sleep and knowledge of the absolute.
Yajñopavītam has three threads (actually only one thread, folded three times and tied together) each consisting of three strands. These threads represent
Goddess Gayathri(Goddess of mind),
Goddess Saraswathi (Goddess of word) and
Goddess Savithri (Goddess of deed).
It denotes that one who wear the sacred thread should be pure in his thought, word and deed. The sacred thread reminds a Brahmachari to lead a regulated life with purity in his thought, word and deed. These threads also represent the debt that is owed to the guru, parents and society.
The knot in the middle represent the formless "Brahman" the pure form of energy which pervades all. The sacred thread illustrates the fact that everything in the universe emerge from and then merge with Brahman.
The sacred thread is supposed to be worn for the rest of one's life after the ceremony has been performed. A new thread is worn and the old thread discarded every year; the change-over ceremony is held on a specific date calculated as per the Hindu calendar.
The sacred thread has close and essential connection with the concept of Pravaras related to Brhamin Gotra system ( Refer my earlier blog on the Gotra - the lineage) which reflects the number of most excellent 7 Vedic Rishis belonging to that particular lineage to which the wearer of sacred thread belongs.
I am a Brahmachrya practising the Brahmopadesam daily and will continue to do so all my life.
Thursday, April 30, 2009 | | 3 Comments
Naadi Josiyam - Astrology
Nadi அச்ற்றோலோலோகி (nāḍi jyotiṣa) is a form of Hindu astrology practised in Tamil Nadu, India. It is based on the belief that the past, present and the future lives of all humans were foreseen by Hindu sages in ancient times and written down as Palm Leaf Manuscripts (nāḍi grantha).
The texts are written in Vatteluttu, which is an ancient Tamil script. There are different schools of thought as to the author of these leaves. They were written by a great Tamil sage called Agathiyar who had divine revelations. This doctrine of astrology was made famous by astrologers around the Vaitheeswaran Temple in the state of Tamil Nadu and is still practiced around the temple by their descendants.These Nadi leaves were initially stored in the premises of Tanjore Saraswati Mahal Library of Tamilnadu. The British rulers later showed interest in the Nadi leaves concerned with herbs and medicine, future prediction etc; but ironically left most of the Nadi prediction leaves to their loyal people. Some leaves got destroyed and the remaining were auctioned during the British rule. These Nadi leaves were obtained and possessed by the families of astrologers in Vaitheeswaran Temple. This is an art passed down the years from one generation to the other.
Nadi astrologers say only a certain number of souls' future predictions are there in the leaves. They are reported cases of exact match in the past details and future predictions.The manuscriptsRitter (The Secret of Indian Palm Leaf Libraries pp.81-85) describes his experiences of many Nadi centers he visited in India and the result of Carbon 14 test conducted in the famous "Institute for Ion Radiation of Physics Department 'placed in Nuclear Research Centre, Rossendorph, Saxen, Germany. This institute has been responsible to decide the age of ancient paintings and other documents of national importance in Germany, Thomas Ritter contacted expert C 14 scientists Prof. Fradrik and Dr. Hanse of the institute. He also confirmed from the experts on Tamil language in Germany that the matter is in fact Tamil language script. It is about predictions and not some religious matter.The Carbon 14 test was performed in 1995 and yielded an age of some 350 years, placing the manuscript in the 17th century.ProcedureUsually, the astrologer (better to say a "reader") asks for the thumb impression (right hand for males and left hand for females). The astrologer (i.e."reader") then searches his repository of leaves for the seeker's classification of thumb print. Finally, the minimum possible set of matching leaves is brought. Every leaf corresponds to some individual and hence will bear the birth and kinship details of its seeker. Then the "Reader" goes on reading the details mentioned on the palm leaf one by one. e.g. "your (i.e. seker's) name is Ramesh." If it is correct the seeker has to reply yes or no. Suppose if the name is correct, the reader reads the next detail written on the same leaf, e.g. "your mother's name is Seeta." Again the seeker has to confirm the same or otherwise. If his/her mother's name is not Seeta, he/she has to reply just "no". That means the leaf does not belong to him/her. Hence the reader starts reading another palm leaf. And the procedure continues. So the seeker is asked a series of questions, based on the verses, so as to find the exact match. These questions are to be answered yes or no. The exact leaf of the seeker is said to get only "yes" responses from the seeker. If all the details on the one and the same leaf are 100% correct, then that leaf belongs to the seekar. It is said that the details such as father/mother's name, seeker's name, name of the wife( if married), details of children, prefession, Hindu astrology birth chart, present age of the seeker, date of birth of seeker etc, are found mentioned on the palm leaf. Once the exact leaf is found, the astrology tells the seeker's name, parents' name, spouse's name and many other details about his future, since they are all written in the leaf. The future is mentioned in such a way that a folder within a folder, e.g. If the seeker is not married at the time of reading, in the general chapter, it might have been written that his marriage will take place at e.g. 27 years of age. If the seeker desires more details regarding his married life then he has to refer to the seventh chapter which deals with only married life and may contain name of wife, her background etc etc. The first chapter (kandam) in the leaf has the general overview of its seeker's life.
1. It contains a gist of future predictions corresponding to the 12 houses of the horoscope, a general overview of the seeker's life with age. Is also a general summary of the 11 kandams that follows it:
2. This Kandam is about Family, Education, Eyes, Money and Intuition etc.
3. This Kandam is about Brothers & Sisters, Relationships between them and self.
4. This Kandam is about Mother and Comforts through House, Land and Vehicles.
5. This Kandam is about Children and births, reason for not having any, future lifestyle of children.
6. This Kandam is about troubles and hardships due to Disease, Debts Enemies, Litigations or Cases.
7. This Kandam is about first Union or Marriage and Status of married life. Also contains hints of valuable information about the name of the future spouse, horoscope, age of marriage, and some characteristic features of the spouse etc.
8. This Kandam is about lifespan and Longevity, Accidents and dangers with indication of time and age during one's lifetime.
9. This Kandam is about Father, Wealth, Visits to holy places, Fortune; Benefit from the preaching's of Guru and holy people, charitable deeds and social life.
10. This Kandam is about Career, Job, Profession and Business, Good and Bad times in career. Future predictions about growth, prosperity and losses in one's job or business.
11. This Kandam is about Second or further marriages, Profits in business etc.
12. This Kandam is about Expenditures, Foreign Visits, Next birth and Salvation.
Please keep an eye on this, as i will be posting more on this.....dad here i come with my questions....
Sunday, April 12, 2009 | | 4 Comments
Gotra - The Lineage
I am a Brahmin, i always wonder when people keep asking what is the gothram that you keep talking about. I try explaining to them, about how we have a lineage. The roots from where we come from. Most of the times i find people staring at me blankly.....
so here is my research on the lineage
A Gotra is the lineage or clan assigned to a Hindu at birth. In most cases, the system is patrilineal and the gotra assigned is that of the person's father. Other names used to refer to it are Vansh, Vanshaj, Bedagu, Purvik, Purvajan, Pitru. An individual may decide to identify his lineage by a different gotra, or combination of gotras. For example Lord Rama was Surya Vansha, also known as Raghu Vansha. This was because Lord Rama's great-grandfather Raghu became famous.
The term gotra, itself, according to strict Hindu tradition is used only for the lineages of Brahmin, Kshatriya and Vysya families. A Gotra relates directly to the original seven or eight Rishis of the Vedas. In this sense, Lord Rama did not have a Gotra, and in rituals his Gotra would be the Gotra of his Brahmin priest. This practice is still common today as it was in ancient times according to earliest Hindu sources. Therefore, Gotra has always been only a Brahmin lineage that descends from seven or eight rishis associated with the Saptarishi or the seven stars of the Great Bear constellation as according to original Hindu Vedic system. The word "Gotra" means "ray." In Brahmin tradition, it is the duty of the Brahmin to keep his particular ray alive by doing daily rituals that he may transmit the power of that ray to others for the benefit of mankind. When the "ray" is extinguished, so is that particular beneficial magical stream dead to the human race and that power lost to mankind forever. Hence the importance of a Brahmin's daily Sandhya.
The Sanskrit term "Gotra" was initially used by the Vedic people for the identification of the lineages. Generally, these lineages mean patrilineal descent from the sages or rishis in Brahmins, warriors and administrators in Kshatriyas and ancestral trademen in Vaisyas.
Recently, the term "gotra" has taken broader meanings to include any lineage, Brahmin or otherwise. Therefore, today, other terms are considered synonymous with gotra and the distinct meaning of the word and the esoteric connotations are lost to many, even within the Brahmin community.
A common mistake is to consider gotra to be synonymous with clan or Kula. A kula is basically a set of people following similar rituals, often worshipping the same God (the Kula-Devata - the God of the clan). Kula has nothing to do with lineage or caste. In fact, it is possible to change one's Kula, based on his faith or ista devatha.
It is common practice in Hindu marriage to enquire about the Kula-Gotra meaning Clan-Lineage of the bride and bridegroom before approving the marriage. In almost all Hindu families, marriages within the same gotra are prohibited since people with same gotra/gothra are considered to be siblings. But marriage within the kula is allowed and even preferred.
Marriages and gotras
Marriages within the gotra ("swagotra" marriages) are banned under the rule of exogamy in the traditional matrimonial system. People within the gotra are regarded as kin and marrying such a person would be thought of as incest. In some communities, where gotra membership passed from father to children, marriages were allowed between uncle and niece, while such marriages were forbidden in matrilineal communities, like Malayalis and Tuluvas, where gotra membership was passed down from the mother. A much more common characteristic of south Indian Hindu society is permission of marriage between cross-cousins (children of brother and sister). Thus, a man is allowed to marry his maternal uncle's daughter or his paternal aunt's daughter but is not allowed to marry his father's brother's daughter, a parallel cousin, who is treated as a sister.
Hope i have cleared the doubts people have........I am Atherya one of the Sapta Rishis.......
Wednesday, September 24, 2008 | | 0 Comments
The Holy Trinity - Shiva, Brahma and Vishnu


Hinduism identifies Brahma, Vishnu, and Shiva as each representing one of the three primary aspects of the divine in Hinduism, known collectively as the Trimurti. In the Trimurti system, Brahma is the creator, Vishnu is the maintainer or preserver, and Shiva is the destroyer or transformer.[10]
Shiva is usually represented by the Shiva linga. In images, he is generally represented as immersed in deep meditation.
Saturday, October 13, 2007 | | 1 Comments
Signifince of Om

The Significance of the Symbol Om
The symbol Om (also called Pranava), is the most sacred symbol in Hinduism. Volumes have been written in Sanskrit illustrating the significance of this mystic symbol. Although this symbol is mentioned in all the Upanishads and in all Hindu scriptures, it is especially elaborated upon in the Taittiriya, Chandogya and Mundaka Upanishads. From the Katha Upanishad (- I, ii, 15-17):
The goal, which all Vedas declare, which all austerities aim at, and which humans desire when they live a life of continence, I will tell you briefly it is Om. The syllable Om is indeed Brahman. This syllable Om is the highest. Whosoever knows this symbol obtains all that he desires. This is the best support; this is the highest support. Whosoever knows this support is adored in the world of Brahman.
The symbol of Om contains of three curves, one semicircle and a dot. The upper curve symbolizes the waking state; the lower curve denotes deep sleep (or the unconscious) state, and the right-side curve (which lies between deep sleep and the waking state) signifies the dream state. These three states of an individual’s consciousness, and therefore the entire physical phenomenon, are represented by the three curves. The dot signifies the Absolute (fourth or Turiya state of consciousness), which illuminates the other three states. The semicircle symbolizes Maya and separates the dot from the other three curves. The semicircle is open on the top, which means that the absolute is infinite and is not affected by maya. Maya only affects the manifested phenomenon. In this way the form of Om symbolizes the infinite Brahman and the entire Universe and the world. Aum is made out of the three gods Shiva and Ganesh and Gayatri.
Uttering the monosyllable Om, the eternal world of Brahman, One who departs leaving the body (at death), he attains the superior goal.
-Bhagavad Gita, 8.13
Sunday, July 09, 2006 | | 4 Comments
Why apply Vibuthi on the forehead?
Vibhuti, a word of Sanskrit and several other languages of India. Literally, it has several meaning including all pervading; superhuman power; and wealth. Vibhuti is also the name for sacred ash used in religious worship in Hinduism, especially connected with Lord Shiva. The ash has several symbolic meanings. Placed on the forehead of devotees, it covers the mark of the spiritual third eye of Hindu belief that sees development of mystic insight as the primary path to Self-realization. It is a reminder of one's mortality since bodies are cremated being only temporary vessels of the soul. It calls to the good of ridding oneself of selfish and base worldly desires that wrap the self in Maya (illusion) just as Shiva burned the god of desire, Kama, to ashes when he attempted to break Shiva's focus on the Divine Truth.
Sunday, June 25, 2006 | | 0 Comments
MY AMERICA -R.K. Narayan
Author: R.K. Narayan
Source: October 1985 issue of Frontline
At the American Consulates the visa issuing section is kept busy
nowadays as more and more young men seek the Green Card or profess to go
on a student visa and many try to extend their stay once they get in.
The official handles a difficult task while filtering out the
"permanents" and letting in only the "transients". The average American
himself is liberal-minded and doesn't bother that more Indian engineers
and doctors are swamping the opportunities available in the country
possibly to the disadvantage of the American candidate himself.
I discussed the subject with Prof. Ainslee Embree of Columbia
University who has had a long association with Indian affairs and
culture. His reply was noteworthy. "Why not Indians as well? In
course of time they will be Americans. The American citizen of today
was once an expatriate, a foreigner who had come out of a European or
African country. Why not from India too? We certainly love to have
Indians in our country."
There are however, two views on this subject. The elderly parents of
Indians settled in America pay a visit to them, from time to time (on
excursion round ticket), and feel pleased at the prosperity of their
sons or daughters in America. After a Greyhound tour of the country and
a visit to Niagara, they are ready to return home when the suburban
existence begins to bore them whether at New Jersey, or The Queens or
the Silicon Valley neighborhood of California. But they always say on
their return, "After all our boys are happy there. Why should they come
back to this country, where they get no encouragement?"
EXASPERATION
Our young man who goes out to the States for higher studies or training,
declares when leaving home, "I will come back as soon as I complete my
course, may be two years or a little more, but I will definitely come
back and work for our country, and also help our family....." Excellent
intentions, but it will not work that way. Later when he returns home
full of dreams, projects, and plans, he only finds hurdles at every turn
when he tries for a job or to start an enterprise of his own.
Form-filling, bureaucracy, caste and other restrictions, and a generally
feudal style of functioning, exasperate the young man and waste his
time. He frets and fumes as days pass with nothing achieved, while he
has been running around presenting or collecting papers at various
places.
He is not used to this sort of treatment in America, where, he claims,
he could walk into the office of the top man anywhere, address him by
his first name and explain his purpose; when he attempts to visit a man
of similar rank in India to discuss his ideas, he realizes that he has
no access to him, but can only talk to subordinate officials in a
hierarchy. Some years ago a biochemist returning home and bursting with
proposals, was curtly told off by the big man when he innocently pushed
the door and stepped in. "You should not come to me directly, send your
papers through proper channels." Thereafter the young biochemist left
India once for all. having kept his retreat open with the help of a
sympathetic professor at the American end. In this respect American
democratic habits have rather spoilt our young men. They have no
patience with our official style or tempo, whereas an Indian at home
would accept the hurdles as inevitable Karma.
The America-returned Indian expects special treatment, forgetting the
fact that over here chancellors of universities will see only the other
chancellors, and top executives will see only other top executives and
none less under any circumstance. Our administrative machinery is slow,
tedious, and feudal in its operation, probably still based on what they
called the Tottenham Manual, creation of a British administrator five
decades ago.
LACK OF OPENINGS
One other reason for a young man's final retreat from India could also
be attributed to the lack of openings for his particular qualification.
A young engineer trained in robotics had to spend all his hours
explaining what it means, to his prospective sponsors, until he realized
that there could be no place for robots in an over-crowded country.
The Indian in America is a rather lonely being, having lost his roots in
one place and not grown them in the other. Few Indians in America make
any attempt to integrate in American cultural or social life. So few
visit an American home or a theater or an opera, or try to understand
the American psyche. An Indian's contact with the American is confined
to his colleagues working along with him and to an official or seminar
luncheon. He may also mutter a "Hi!" across the fence to an American
neighbor while lawn-mowing. At other times one never sees the other
except by appointment, each family being boxed up in their homes
securely behind locked doors.
After he has equipped his new home with the latest dish-washer, video,
etc., with two cars in the garage and acquired all that the others have,
he sits back with his family counting his blessings. Outwardly happy,
but secretly gnawed by some vague discontent and aware of some inner
turbulence or vacuum, he cannot define which. All the comfort is
physically satisfying, he has immense "job satisfaction" and that is
about all.
ENNUI
On a week-end he drives his family fifty miles or more towards another
Indian family to eat an Indian dinner, discuss Indian politics, or tax
problems (for doctors particularly this is a constant topic of
conversation, being in the highest income bracket). There is monotony
in this pattern of life. so mechanical and standardized.
In this individual, India has lost an intellectual or an expert; but it
must not be forgotten that the expert has lost India too, which is a
more serious loss in the final reckoning.
The quality of life in India is different. In spite of all its
deficiencies, irritations, lack of material comforts and amenities, and
general confusion, Indian life builds up an inner strength. It is
through subtle inexplicable influences (through religion, family ties,
and human relationships in general). Let us call them psychological
"inputs" to use a modern terminology, which cumulatively sustain and
lend variety and richness to existence. Building imposing Indian
temples in America, installing our gods therein and importing Indian
priests to perform the puja and festivals, are only imitative of Indian
existence and could have only a limited value. Social and religious
assemblies at the temples (in America) might mitigate boredom but only
temporarily. I have lived as a guest for extended periods in many
Indian homes in America and have noticed the ennui that descends on a
family when they are stuck at home.
Children growing up in America present a special problem. They have to
develop themselves on a shallow foundation without a cultural basis,
either Indian or American. Such children are ignorant of India and
without the gentleness and courtesy and respect for parents, which forms
the basic training for a child in an Indian home, unlike the American
upbringing whereby a child is left alone to discover for himself the
right code of conduct. Aware of his child's ignorance of Indian life,
the Indian parent tries to cram into the child's little head all
possible information during an 'Excursion Fare' trip to the mother
country.
DIFFERING EMPHASIS
In the final analysis America and India differ basically, though it
would be wonderful if they could complement each other's values. Indian
philosophy lays stress on austerity and unencumbered, uncomplicated
day-to-day living. On the other hand, America's emphasis is on material
acquisitions and a limitless pursuit of prosperity. >From childhood an
Indian is brought up on the notion that austerity and a contended life
is good. and also a certain other- worldliness is inculcated through
the tales a grandmother narrates, the discourses at the temple hall, and
through moral books. The American temperament, on the contrary, is
pragmatic.
INDIFFERENCE TO ETERNITY
The American has a robust indifference to eternity. "Visit the church
on a Sunday and listen to the sermon if you like but don't bother about
the future," he seems to say. Also, "dead yesterday and unborn
tomorrow, why fret about them if today be sweet?" - he seems to echo
Omar Khayyam's philosophy. He works hard and earnestly, and acquires
wealth, and enjoys life. He has no time to worry about the after-life;
he only takes the precaution to draw up a proper will and trusts the
Funeral Home around the corner to take care of the rest. The Indian who
is not able to live on this basis wholeheartedly, finds himself in a
half-way house; he is unable to overcome the inherited complexes while
physically flourishing on the American soil. One may hope that the next
generation of Indians (American-grown) will do better by accepting the
American climate spontaneously or in the alternative return to India to
live a different life.
R. K. NARAYAN
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Tuesday, March 22, 2005 | | 0 Comments
Wearable Computers You Can Slip Into
The latest generation of these ever-smarter garments look like ordinary clothes, not something only a cyborg would don
Gauri Nanda sees a wearable computer as a...handbag -- one that's built out of four-inch squares and triangles of fabric, with tiny computer chips embedded in it. Assembled together with Velcro that conducts electricity, these pieces form a bag that looks, feels, and weighs like your typical leather purse.
That's where the similarities end: This bag can wirelessly keep tabs on your belongings and remind you, just as you're about to leave the house, to take your wallet. It can review the weather report and suggest that you grab an umbrella -- or your sunshades. This purse can even upload your favorite songs onto your scarf.
Sure, a computing purse and scarf set may seem like the stuff of science fiction. But these devices, part of next generation of wearable computers, could become commonplace within a few years. Unit shipments of such wearable computers -- purses, watches, shirts -- should rise from 261,000 last year to 1.39 million in 2008, according to the tech research firm IDC.
"VERY CLUNKY." Powering this market are advancements in design and in fabric-embedded electronics. Over the last two years, DuPont (DD ) created new fibers called Aracon, made of Kevlar, that are superstrong, can conduct electricity, and can be woven into ordinary-looking clothes. And chipmaker Infineon (IFX ) developed chip packaging allowing wearable computers to be washed, even in the heavy-duty cycle.
As a result, these new wearables are a far cry from the clunky and downright silly versions of the recent past, which often required users to be wrapped in wires, type on their stomachs, and sport an unseemly display on their foreheads. "Cyborg computing was very clunky, very bulky machines that people didn't want to carry around," says Nanda, a researcher at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in Cambridge, Mass. "Our bags feel and look like bags."
Unlike their predecessors, these new wearable computers also make economic sense. When her bag becomes commercially available in two to three years, Nanda expects it will cost around $150, which is the price of an average leather purse. Only "it's fun, you can rip apart and put together a computer," she says.
TAKING OFF. Here's how the bag works: You place a special radio-signal-transmitting chip onto your wallet. A similar radio in your purse picks up the signal and notifies you that you've forgotten to take your wallet. In turn, sensors on your purse's handles will notify the computer that you've picked up the purse and are ready to go.
Such unobtrusive, inconspicuous, and fun devices should grab more than 80% of the total wearable computing market by 2008, while cyborgian wearable PCs will remain a niche, says IDC analyst Kevin Burden. Already, these new kinds of wearables are being adopted for use in markets like auto repair, emergency services, medical monitoring -- and even, increasingly, for consumers at large.
Particularly in health-related applications, wearables are taking off. Consider BodyMedia, a Pittsburgh company that makes a special "smart band." It's worn on the upper arm and collects data on the wearer's physical state, such as the way the body releases heat. It sales should more than double this year, says CEO Astro Teller.
"IT'S TOO EASY." Originally released three years ago as a tool for researchers -- auto makers, for example, used it to understand stress in drivers -- the band is about to enter the mainstream. Later this month, Apex Fitness Group, which distributes fitness products to 1,200 health clubs such as 24-hour Fitness, will begin promoting the band for consumers as a weight-loss monitoring tool.
People who tested the product "say it's like cheating," says Neal Spruce, Apex president and CEO. "It's too easy to diet. It's the best tool we've ever found." By telling them exactly how many calories they expend, the device helped users adjust their diets and physical regimen.
In the next year, BodyMedia also plans to release special bands for monitoring the well-being of infants and the elderly. The idea, Teller says, isn'tot to turn people into cyborgs but "to make people feel more human."
LESS COSTLY TRIALS. Other wearable computers help address more severe health problems. A special shirt developed three years ago by VivoMetrics in Ventura, Calif., is already used in most of the country's top medical schools and drug companies. The garment, which collects and analyzes its wearer's respiration flow, heart rate, and other key metrics, can allow researchers to see in real time whether a new treatment is working.
Because of the volume of data it collects, the shirt can significantly reduce the number of participants in trials, as well as the trials' duration. In the case of one study for a sleep drug, traditional methods like hooking up patients to various machines at a special sleep lab "would have been at least 10 times more expensive and would have taken 10 times longer," says Steven James, a San Diego consultant to pharmaceutical companies. During this trial, 15 patients simply wore the shirts at home overnight. VivoMetrics sells a set of six shirts and related software and data recorders for $15,000.
This spring, VivoMetrics plans to release a shirt for emergency-services workers, such as firefighters. It will wirelessly alert commanders that a firefighter's core body temperature or stress levels are reaching critical levels. And in 2006, VivoMetrics expects to introduce an under-$500 shirt for the consumer market, says President and CEO Paul Kennedy. Such a product would let a mother monitor an asthmatic child.
REVENUE ENHANCER. Wearables are also slowly making their way into the auto-repair market. A company called Microvision (MVIS ) recently introduced its Nomad head-mounted display. It covers one eye, but it's see-through, allowing auto technicians to examine the innards of a car and check them against on-screen computer drawings at the same time. It comes as a baseball cap clip-on, to be more unobtrusive.
So far, it's a hit: At Jim Fisher Volvo dealership in Portland, Ore., which has been testing the system for about seven months, productivity of technicians went up 10% to 20%, says Service Manager John Prosser. Better yet, customers talking to technicians who are wearing these contraptions also are more likely to agree to repairs, pushing revenue up 15% to 18%. Says Prosser: "This makes [technicians] want to get involved and to cross this bridge of reluctance" in using a new technology.
Indeed, many more people will want to cross that bridge in the coming years -- making for a booming market for wearable computers that don't look like something out of an old Star Trek episode.
Friday, March 11, 2005 | | 0 Comments
Blogs for sale
Anyone who thinks blogs can't make money should check out Gawker. This growing stable of blogs just added Lifehacker, a slick tech site sponsored by Sony. Dan Gillmor reports that Sony will pay in the range of $25,000 a month to sponsor the new site. The deal also includes some ads on Gawker's other tech site, Gizmodo. The question, of course, is whether these are really blogs or simply commercial web pages. Fact is, the line between the two is fast blurring.
Thursday, February 03, 2005 | | 0 Comments
"Not tonight, honey. I gotta go and help tsunami survivors!"
People worldwide have responded magnificently to help survivors of the tsunami disaster. Money has poured in from all quarters. Governments have tried to keep pace with the sentiments of people at large. But one must confess to a slight unease over certain aspects of the relief effort. The reference is not to spurious NGOs which jump into the fray, carefully documenting their activities on camera, to ensure continuation of their own funding. Refer, rather, to money being raised for tsunami relief work.
It is nice to see people carry on with their normal lives and take the disaster in their stride. It is also nice to see celebrities in different walks of life pitching in to help raise funds. It's okay, for instance, when Hollywood or Bollywood stars approach the public for funds. It is okay even when they stage charity events to rake in money for relief. In effect they are giving up their own earnings and passing on the revenue to help tsunami survivors.
It is also okay for sports stars to play charity matches to help the relief effort. They, too, sacrifice their own earnings to help victims. And most of the celebrities have themselves given generous donations, too
The public can simply donate for relief work. And many members of the public have done precisely that. But, is it okay to make a virtue of enjoying the entertainment provided by charity events? To think that a good time is being had for the sake of tsunami survivors? Is there not an element of hypocrisy that is faintly offensive? Possibly not.
But what about charity fashion shows in which models in lingerie traipse up and down the ramp while concerned citizens moved by the plight of tsunami survivors ogle at the models? Are they also doing their bit for tsunami relief? Perhaps that's okay, too. If so, then Mercedes Mueller of Dortmund, Germany, must be okay, too.
According to Reuters news agency, Mueller runs a brothel. Moved by the plight of tsunami survivors, she is donating part of her earnings. "It's not everyday you can make a charitable gesture by going to a brothel," said Mueller, who owns the Happy FKK Club in Dortmund. She said the clients and prostitutes had all responded with great enthusiasm and $1,700 had been raised so far. She said, "We all have a heart, too."
Doubtless many husbands with a heart would have told their wives: "Not tonight, honey. I gotta go and help tsunami survivors!"
Thursday, February 03, 2005 | | 0 Comments
Though there is no beginning, this has to have some contents and so a small "Aarmbh" With the CONCEPT OF TIME
I was browsing some time back, and came across the below concept of time, in the Indian Mythology, and was impressed very much, to the details that our fore fathers have gone into the concept of time, so thought i should share this.
The smallest unit of time is a kaashta which is 18 times the amount of time it takes to blink an eyelid. 10 kaashtas make a kshanam and 12 kshanams constitute a muhoortam. 60 of these muhoortams constitute a day. 30 days constitute a month and 3 months make up a ritu. 12 months of course constitue a human year.
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Thursday, February 03, 2005 | | 0 Comments
